Am I a Queen or a Slut?

Dear Diva Rebecca,

I am in a specific situation here. I'm a mother of a 15 month old boy. I'm single - have left his father before he was born. I have recently met a man who seems in love with my son. We spend a lot of time together, see each other approximately 4 times a week. He adores spending time with my boy, and my boy adores him, which is very unusual since he mainly likes women, before him he never responded to men. He cooks for me, gives me massages, drives us wherever and whenever... You now probably wonder where's the problem... He has a girlfriend. He never mentions her, to be precise, he mentioned her exactly 4 times in 6 months we know each other. I have met her once, and I felt bad realizing that she is not bad at all. She's not a beauty, but she's kind and cute, a little spoiled though. Anyways, he treats me like a queen, but I don't know what to do!

Sincerely,

In the Dark

Dear Dark,

I am a little confused. You say that you two hang out all of the time, but you did not make clear the nature of your relationship. Are you just friends, or do you share a more intimate relationship. You did not mention a physical or emotional relationship.

If you two are just friends, then you should back off because of the other woman. You can not let yourself play the part of the other woman, nor should you try.

If you are having a real relationship, then you also need to break off the relationship because of the other woman. He is treating you like a common whore. You think he is treating you like a queen, but as the saying goes, "treat a slut like a queen and a queen like a slut". He is hiding you from his girlfriend because he really cares about his girlfriend and he does not want to hurt her nor break up with her. On the other hand, he lets you know that he has a girlfriend and you are just a treat on teh side. That is because he does not care about your feelings. He is treating you very poorly. Also, the longer you continue this relationship, the more ashamed of yourself you should be. You are doing wrong to this other woman whom you do not even know, and you are allowing yourself to be treated in a disrespectful manner.

You might care a lot about this guy, but you need to start caring more about yourself. End the relationship now and let him know that you only want to get involved with a man who is ready for a mature and committed relationship.

Sincerely,

Diva Rebecca